Costa Rica: Runaway to yoga, surfing and writing.

Sweat dripped off my face after the ninth downward dog done in rapid sequence to Katy Perry’s top hit “Chained to the Rhythm”.  Power yoga is a place I have not visited often but it felt good to move through the poses and challenge myself in the 90 degree heat. Most of the yoga I have enjoyed has been an hour of slow steady strengthening and stretching.  Some teachers focus more on the spiritual aspect of introspection and self growth.  Some teachers are sticklers for correct formation or holding poses for agonizingly long seconds while others are lucky to be able to speak over the chatter box ladies catching up on the latest gossip.

Sean Conley had played in the NFL for 4 years and was my yoga instructor for the week long retreat at Blue Spirit Resort and Spa in Costa Rica. He is an inspirational, friendly father of 4 who lives in Pittsburgh with his family. He and his wife Karen own four yoga studios and plan several retreats each year to Mexico, Costa Rica and Cuba.

I arrived to Liberia, Costa Rica airport and took the almost 3 hour shuttle to Blue Spirit Resort in Nosara.  The last one hour of travel was difficult as the road was full of potholes or was simply gravel, so the driver needed to weave around the street to avoid damaging his van.

Everyone who visits Blue Spirit stays for a full seven days.  Three vegetarian meals each day are included in the package. The meals were amazingly delicious.  Meals were served buffet style and there was always a wide variety of dishes as well as fresh bread and butter.  Since I wasn’t eating meat, I of course went all out on bread and butter.  A cafe is available to purchase juices, smoothies, desserts and in the evenings, wine and beer.

My room was amazing.  I did not know what to expect.  Rooms vary depending on how much you pay.  Some economy units include tents with fans or eco lodges that you can share with a roommate.  I had splurged on a single unit and I was not disappointed.  My room was one of three Pacific Cottages. The cottage was air-conditioned and had a nice closet and bathroom with a fun out door shower.  Also, the best was a front porch with a hammock and sitting bench where you could sit in the jungle, yet hear the ocean not far away.

My first evening, I took a walk just before sunset and took some awesome photos.  I had dinner with people that I had rode the shuttle with and then went back to my room and wrote in a journal.

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Landing in Liberia, CR
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Outdoor shower
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Sunset over the Pacific
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Dining room

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At orientation the first morning, all four groups who were staying met together in the sky mind hall with the owners of Blue Spirit. We were given some basic information about Costa Rica and introduced to the therapists available. Suma, who is originally from Germany, offered 60 minutes of Somatic experiencing. This holistic healing is based on the understanding that  that symptoms of trauma are the result of a dysregulation in the nervous system.  My session seemed like it fit with my 3rd intention of this trip, to  find my truth and get in touch with my inner feelings that I have been avoiding.  I was able to have a good cry and understand that it is OK to visit that place, but I do not have to live there.

Sunday, we met Lee Gutkind, an author and the founder of the Creative Non-Fiction journal.  We were to meet with him two times each day for instruction on writing and then share our writing as the week went on.  Lee brought slides and gave us a thorough introduction to the genre of Creative non-fiction.  Many best sellers such as Wild, Angela’s Ashes and The Glass Castle are Creative Non-Fiction. Lee gave us the outline for telling good stories with a scene and then giving more information.  I was excited to try.

Several flights had been cancelled so some members in our group came a day or so late.  Sean Connelly, our yoga instructor, and former kicker for the NY Jets, delivered his first class Sunday evening.  Sean was familiar with many of the women on the trip who had taken his classes in the past.  The class started and the commands were delivered quickly and executed by yogis in tight leggings and serious expressions.  I was glad that I had been practicing for a few years and at least knew what he was talking about, even though I was constantly looking at the other people in class to be sure.

After sweating profusely with consecutive vinyasas and warrior poses, we held still a bit for some balance poses.  That is when I first started to get distracted.  The sun was setting outside the two large glass walls of window. I am good at knowing when an awesome sunset is coming.  The cloud formations were spectacular and the shades of red and orange in the sky is still hard to forget.  I wanted so badly to run to my bag and take out my phone for a photo.  I knew if I shared that photo with the amazing water view from this high vista, I would get so many likes on Facebook! But I wasn’t supposed to think about that.  I was trying to do a balance pose.  Knee up. Knee to the side.  Look like an airplane.  I just wanted to look at that sunset!!

I took a deep breath and remembered that I am here for me.  I made 5 intentions for the week.  Relax and Just Be were numbers 1 and 5.  So I refocused and decided that I could enjoy the sunset and focus on my balance and the rest of class.  I was doing this for me and I would focus on gratitude now (number 4). We moved to the floor for happy baby pose, fish pose, pigeon pose and then finally shavasana. I was proud of myself for finishing class, staying focused with my group and now moving into the final rest pose.

I tried to clear my mind and think only of the present.  Not think about anything else during this final relaxation pose.  I am really good at laying quietly.  Trying not to think can be hard, but I was going to do it.  That’s when I think my husband sent me one more thing to distract me.  Howler Monkeys.  Now, I am sure it is not Mike’s fault but seriously once these crazy loud scary monkeys started to make their growling noises outside the windows, I thought to myself, no way is everyone so zen that they can’t hear those crazy monkeys!!  I started to laugh, quietly.  Now I knew I could do this week and thought, I am still going to have fun.

Settling into the routine of a meal, writing class, yoga, swim in the infinity pool, lunch, time to reflect and read and write on my porch with the hammock. Repeat: afternoon writing class, yoga, swim, dinner, socialize, read before bed.  I could have done this for a month or two.  It was relaxing.  I love to read and if I was going to write a book, what a great place to write.

On Wednesday we had the morning off. Activities were available including zip lining, horse back riding on the beach, paddleboarding, a shuttle to town and surf lessons. I signed up for a surf lesson, that was number 2 on my list, try something new. My new friend I met from Texas joined me and we drove in her rented car to Playa Guiones, 5 km away.  The waves roll in from far out so there is plenty of time to ride the wave and then try to stand on the board. I got up a few times but not for long. My friend and I decided to skip Friday morning’s yoga class and rent a board.  We went back to town and took turns using the longboard.  It had cost us $75 each for the lesson, but was only $10 for 5 hours to rent the board.  We both had a successful experience. I was thrilled to be able to stand. We celebrated by having lunch at the Beach Dog Cafe, a hostel and restaurant located right by the beach.

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Tents at Blue Spirit
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Fresh watermelon, pineapple and papaya
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Sky mind hall
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Monkey outside my shower
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Me surfing!
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Sunset in Costa Rica

The end of the week came much too quickly for me.  I could easily have stayed longer.  As I slowly came back to reality, I remembered some of the loss I have had this past year.  I saw it when I stood behind the young honeymooners.  She with her shiny new diamond ring and her strong husband carrying both bags. I felt that loss when I saw the dad carrying the young son around the airport as he asked questions and the dad gave calm attentive answers.  I felt it as I saw the grandma and grandpa on line waiting to go through security at the airport with their 2 grandchildren.  I imagined their visit to Costa Rica together and how I can never have that.

My reality has changed. The future is not promised.  After I came back from chaperoning my son’s youth group to Costa Rica 5 years ago, Mike had thought moving to Costa Rica was an option worth considering.  I was more practical and felt we needed to wait until the kids graduated high school and maybe college and I was eligible to collect a pension.  Maybe we should have left then.  That is no longer an option for us.

I feel restored and relaxed from my retreat.  I set my intentions, and I achieved what I wanted.  I am learning to let go of what I thought should happen and live in what is happening.  I am grateful for everyday that I am here and am determined to live a good life, for both of us.

 

 

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50 comments on “Costa Rica: Runaway to yoga, surfing and writing.”
  1. It sounds like a wonderful experience, I’m glad that you splurged on a special room. (Btw, I would definitely have grabbed my camera and taken a photo of the sunset. No downward dog for me when there is an amazing shot to take.😄)

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thank you – yes it was great and worth it for the nice room.

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  2. runawaywidow says:

    Thank you. I did love that room. It was worth it.

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  3. Matty says:

    That was amazing Mom. Next time we go to the beach I want to see you go surfing! Love you.

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      As long as we go to Costa Rica, I will do it again!! xo

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      1. cedar51 says:

        how fun…your skills have been noted by your son 🙂

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      2. runawaywidow says:

        Cute right? Now we’ll have to plan a surf trip together. 🏄‍♀️🏄🏼

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  4. Javon says:

    Wow, thanks for sharing your experience in Costa Rica. The howler monkey story made me laugh. I’ll keep that lodging in mind for my next trip there.

    And by the way, I’m not sure why but the comment isn’t letting me leave my URL, so I’ll leave it here: http://www.onegreenbicycle.com

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Great – thanks for the comment an the URL too.

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  5. Brittany_WMSB says:

    This sounds like an absolutely wonderful, restorative trip! I’m sorry for all of the sadness of what will not be, but I am glad you focused on you and the present gratitude as well.

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thank you Brittany – it was a great trip and I would go back again!

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  6. Christie Tarver says:

    Hi! Hola surf amiga! Great read!!!!! And photos! Your such a great writer and sharing is nice. Ok…. my critic side….. maybe talk more from your deeper inner self on the experiences at blue spirit. I know… ur thinking but I don’t want to share too much… or be too transparent. I’d like to know as a reader a little more about you on a deeper level. :). Miss hanging out w u. Christie Surf🏄🏼‍♀️

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Ok. We will need to hang out again and surf and I will keep digging for that deeper level 🤙🏼

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  7. Christie Tarver says:

    Sending a second time because I am not sure it sent… Hi! Hola surf amiga! Great read!!!!! And photos! Your such a great writer and sharing is nice. Ok…. my critic side….. maybe talk more from your deeper inner self on the experiences at blue spirit. I know… ur thinking but I don’t want to share too much… or be too transparent. I’d like to know as a reader a little more about you on a deeper level. :). Miss hanging out w u. Christie Surf🏄🏼‍♀️

    Sent from my iPhone

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  8. realmofvibes says:

    I am so jealous. This sounds like the perfect trip for me… I have been talking about a yoga Costa Rica trip for awhile. I am living vicariously through you!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      This is the place to go if you do make that trip. I loved it!

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  9. runawaywidow says:

    This was an awesome place to go if you get the chance. Thanks for reading!

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  10. projectlifewellness says:

    Beautiful post! made me think of when the Hubby and I vacationed here in 2014! I miss it so much!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      It is definitely a place to go back to!

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  11. Rachel says:

    So happy for you, it sounds amazing! I wish I could do something like this! Good for you!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks Rachel – it was a great trip.

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  12. Maryann says:

    Out of this terrible tragedy you are trying to find something positive. I think that is brave and in the end rewarding (I hope) keep it up. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

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  13. sharon says:

    Thats amazing you had a great trip and you were able to go to! the pictures are stunning too

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      It was a geat experience

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  14. Sophia Whitham says:

    Wow, this looks incredible, what an amazing experience! It’s nice to splurge on a slightly nicer room sometimes and the sunset you captured is totally worth it xxx

    Sophia xx http://sophiawhitham.co.uk

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thank you Sophia- Every night the sunsets were amazing!

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  15. sneltzer says:

    Looks amazing. I have heard nothing but good things about Costa Rica!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks – it was great!

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  16. shelbydowden says:

    Wow, this sounds like a beautiful trip. I am in awe of the beauty from the pictures! Glad you had a great trip!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thank you – it was amazing!!

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  17. Priyanka says:

    I’ve been wanting to try a retreat like this. I loved reading your post and seeing those photos! What an amazing trip!

    xo,
    Pri | Paint The Town Chic

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  18. alifeofauthenticity says:

    Oh how I love love love Costa Rica. I went there for my 21st birthday and spent a few days in a rain forest/jungle lol and it was a blast. It looks like you had an awesome time as well. Thanks for the reminder of how amazing the country is.

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      What a great place to go for your birthday

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  19. SC says:

    What a fun trip! Surfing sounds like a blast and that hammock looks like the perfect spot for a nap. 😉
    xo, SC // SCsScoop.com

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      The hammock was great. Thanks for reading!

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  20. What an amazing experience. The trip sounds fun and relaxing. Nice pictures that captured all the memorable moments!

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks for reading!

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  21. eazynazy says:

    pictures are really very beautiful, i hope u had an amazing time

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks. It was great

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  22. Amber says:

    I just love all your photos! I always wanted to visit Costa Rica. That hammock looks so amazing.

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks for reading!

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  23. Ana Ojha says:

    Your yoga Costa Rica trip looks amazing! Glad that you focused on keeping yourself positive after that tragedy. Your pictures are beautiful!

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  24. Gelli says:

    It sounds like a really awesome experience! I feel like the place is relaxed and right for everybody, solo, couples, or even with family. So nice to read about this. I love reading personal experiences like this one.

    ohmygelli.com

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks. It was really an awesome week.

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  25. OMGoodness! This sounds like the perfect blend of self-discovery, relaxation and bliss! I want to make a trip to the lovely Costa Rica. Love that this was also for a mission trip! ❤

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  26. danivendetti says:

    Yoga is so healing. Nice blog👍🏼 I can’t wait to get back into I’m 3 weeks post brain surgery so I need to take it easy. For now
    I’m getting into Reiki! Has a session before surgery and I loved it 💜💙💚💛❤️

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      I would like to try Reiki too. Glad you loved it.

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  27. What an amazing experience. Going to Costa Rica in a couple of weeks and glad I read your blog.

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    1. runawaywidow says:

      Have a great time. Thanks for reading!

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