I’m here for you… Send a care package to a widow this year!

As an overwhelmed and unexpected widow, I had no idea how to respond to the heart given cry “call me if you need anything”.

I, of course, had no idea what I would need or how much my life was about to change.

During the first month or so I was so fortunate to be gifted with cards, and friends and even meals.  Not all widows move through the fog as easily but I was being held and loved by friends and family.

Unfortunately, that is not the story for many people experiencing the sudden loss of a loved one this year.  More and more stories are being told of how lonely people are after the loss of a family member.  As people age and find it harder to leave the home, life can become even more lonely.

I have written about fighting the fear or the reality of being a sad and lonely widow How to NOT be a Stay at Home, Lonely Widow.  But I am a young 55 year old and I am determined to enjoy my life and continue to experience all I can and find joy in each day.

That being said, I remember how when I was in my saddest moments, the kindness and unexpected notes or meals or even comments on Facebook, really made my day.

When our kids were little, we always participated in a program at our church called Operation Christmas Child by Samaritan’s Purse.  We would excitedly fill a few shoe boxes with hygiene items, toys, school supplies and a clean shirt to send to children in need.

This project has delivered 157 million shoeboxes to boy and girls around the world and put smiles on children in tough times.

Which brings me back to our newly devastated widows and widowers.

The holidays are the absolute worst, especially that first holiday.

No matter how it may look to you on the outside, your friend who just lost a loved one is thinking about that person ALL THE TIME.

The tears and depression are bound to visit.  The memories and the unfairness of it all are there too.

But we can do something about this.

So many people visit the funeral home, the wake, the memorial service.  We are sad and offer condolences.  Sometimes, we even offer to help in any way we can. The words come out, but we are not even sure what we are asking to do.  If you need anything, call me.  I have addressed this comment here too: How to comfort your widowed friend.

But this holiday season, why not think about someone who has experienced a significant loss.  in the midst of all the chaos of the holidays and pleasing kids, and spouses and parents, think about that person who is experiencing grief.

 

Last year I started to send care packages to women I know who experienced the loss of a husband.  It happened to me and so I understand.

I sent a note.  A heartfelt, handwritten note.  I really wrote it.

Then I added a few things in a shoebox  I thought I would like.  Get your Santa lists ready:

a nice smelling candle

a book for widows

pleasant smelling hand cream

fuzzy flip flops

a journal

candy

a Sudoku/ crossword book

lip balm

happy sign for inspiration

I will be making a few of these this year.  I am sure you can use your imagination and think of even more awesome ideas for our widowed friends.  Believe me, remembering a widow this season will really be appreciated.

Grief care package for widow

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Comments

12 comments on “I’m here for you… Send a care package to a widow this year!”
  1. Lynn says:

    Thank you. I appreciate the support you have so generously sent out to felliw widows. Just want to say, my kids are also out and about….but have very few opportunities to visit. Also, love that you have enjoyed travel, while still working/teaching. And that you have a boyfriend! Pls remember as you write that many of us share your road, but not every great path.Tell us how to fund kid visits, how to find $ to travel, where to go/what to do to find a boyfriend. Happy for you! Many if us look like you, but have not yet been so fortunate. What do you suggest? Thanks!

    1. Lynn Keller says:

      Geez…meant of not if, etc., above!

    2. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks so much for reading and your comment. It’s definitely not easy but keep taking those baby steps. Working helps me afford my travel. Also I use points on credit cards for flights. Lots of ideas for the next blogs. Thanks 😉

  2. Lynn Keller says:

    Thank you.

  3. mswwrites says:

    I love the idea of a care package or ‘thinking of you’ package or basket for a widow or widower.
    I am very sorry for your loss and can only imagine the grief and bereavement you have gone through…

    I have been exposed to quite a bit of death but extended family on my side. My ex’s side. Many clients, a neighbors child, pets…. not the same on any level.

    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks for reading. Any small way to let the widow or widower know we care is great.

  4. What an incredibly kind and thoughtful thing to do :O) x

    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks – it’s always the little things that matter!

  5. Jan Wilberg says:

    It’s the tangible things that send a real message, I think. I haven’t gone through this terrible loss but I have tried to comfort those who have. And only having ‘let me know if I can help’ to offer has always felt pretty lame. This is something so much better. Thanks!

    1. runawaywidow says:

      Thanks so much for your comment- just a small unexpected message of love is so appreciated!

  6. Addie says:

    Great idea, I have dear friends who lost their spouses this year, I will come up with something for them.

    1. runawaywidow says:

      So nice. It’s a tough year, as you know!

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