WE CAN NOT CONTROL THE WIND, ONLY HOW WE ADJUST OUR SAILS. COME SAIL AWAY WITH ME…
My name is Kristin and at the age of 51 I unexpectedly became a widow. I spent a lot of time reading about how to live after the death of a spouse and after enduring a very painful holiday decided my best plan for this first year was to runaway.
I started my blog when I went by myself to Thailand so that I could avoid being home for my first wedding anniversary without my husband as well as the one year anniversary of his passing. After flying for close to 22 hours, I met up with my tour group in Bangkok. I met wonderful people and had the best time living my life, embracing elephants and swimming in tropical seas.
I traveled a bit during the first year as a widow so that I could run away from the pain and the memories. I engaged in therapy and had a lot of support from neighbors and friends to help me get through the first year. Grief is an ongoing process and my blog will be a positive look at some ways that I have coped with my loss and how I am moving forward even when I don’t feel like it.
After the big trip I struggled with daily activities and tried to positively move forward into my new and different life. It is not a life I asked for, but once your husband is gone your life is forever changed. I found joy again, at first in very small things.
Over time I engaged in more day trips alone or with friends. I traveled to meet friends or even on my own for a yoga and writing retreat in Costa Rica and a grief and healing weekend in Connecticut. Taking time to do something, anything, can be very helpful and eventually you discover a new normal. It is not the same, but there could be some unexpected surprises along the way.
As I continue on this path of grief and loss, I share my challenges (like removing my wedding ring), adventures (like trekking in the Thailand rainforest) and travels (like visiting family in Florida). If I can inspire others to try new things simply for the joy and wonder it brings, then I have made Mike proud and I am happy. I welcome an interactive community of fellow travelers of life.
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