About Runaway Widow

I unexpectedly became a widow at the age of 51. I share my travels, adventures, challenges and stumbles as I move forward after the loss of a spouse. Grief is a path many of us visit, but it is not a place to stay forever. Discovering joy and happiness again or maybe even love and dating are some new challenges I hope to embrace.

WE CAN NOT CONTROL THE WIND, ONLY HOW WE ADJUST OUR SAILS.  COME SAIL AWAY WITH ME…

My name is Kristin and at the age of 51 I unexpectedly became a widow.  I spent a lot of time reading about how to live after the death of a spouse and after enduring a very painful holiday decided my best plan for this first year was to runaway.

I started my blog when I went by myself to Thailand so that I could avoid being home for my first wedding anniversary without my husband as well as the one year anniversary of his passing. After flying for close to 22 hours, I met up with my tour group in Bangkok.  I met wonderful people and had the best time living my life, embracing elephants and swimming in tropical seas.

I traveled a bit during the first year as a widow so that I could run away from the pain and the memories.  I engaged in therapy and had a lot of support from neighbors and friends to help me get through the first year.  Grief is an ongoing process and my blog will be a positive look at some ways that I have coped with my loss and how I am moving forward even when I don’t feel like it.

After the big trip I struggled with daily activities and tried to positively move forward into my new and different life.  It is not a life I asked for, but once your husband is gone your life is forever changed.  I found joy again, at first in very small things.

Over time I engaged in more day trips alone or with friends.  I traveled to meet friends or even on my own for a yoga and writing retreat in Costa Rica and a grief and healing weekend in Connecticut.  Taking time to do something, anything, can be very helpful and eventually you discover a new normal.  It is not the same, but there could be some unexpected surprises along the way.

As I continue on this path of grief and loss, I share my challenges (like removing my wedding ring), adventures (like trekking in the Thailand rainforest) and travels (like visiting family in Florida).  If I can inspire others to try new things simply for the joy and wonder it brings, then I have made Mike proud and I am happy.  I welcome an interactive community of fellow travelers of life.

Here are a few of my favorite blogs:

https://runawaywidow.com/2018/02/03/do-widows-wear-wedding-rings/

https://runawaywidow.com/2016/08/26/jungle-trekking-at-night-or-my-least-favorite-thing-to-do-in-the-thailand-rainforest/

https://runawaywidow.com/2017/09/13/birthday-love/

https://runawaywidow.com/2018/01/12/widow-to-widow-advice-on-dating-and-moving-forward-from-my-mom/

https://runawaywidow.com/2017/12/27/we-missed-you-at-christmas/

 

 

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Kris and Mike arriving in Croatia

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5 comments

  1. Hey Kris, thanks for leaving a comment on Ye Olde Blogge that led me to you! I plan on doing a lot more travelling once I retire and I look forward to living vicariously through you in the meantime. Hope you are doing well also!

    Deb

  2. Hi Kristin, I look forward to working with you in our new Tailwind Tribe for widows! You offer a slightly different perspective on widowhood than my own, and that’s always a good thing. See you there!

  3. Good! Let’s do it! I’ve been reasonably pleased with my results from Tribes, VERY pleased with my Tailwind auto-scheduling. I should say that you and I seem to be the only widow-bloggers of much activity on Pinterest. We can look at it as a ground floor opportunity. Welcome aboard.

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